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    Tuesday, December 29th, 2009
    spreadsothin
    12:18p
    For Christmas, I would like more self discipline
    It is easiest for me to learn something collaboratively. I am a fast reader, so I can consume the information on my own, but I appreciate the structure of a classroom environment. I appreciate the teacher and I appreciate the deadlines. If I don't wish to pay for a class, I must be my own teacher and enforce my own deadlines.

    There are things I would like to do with my time that I haven't been doing. For the New Year, I would like to cultivate more self discipline.

    I hereby resolve:
    to play the guitar when I get home for the day, provided it's before 10pm. Daily practice will increase my skills. I will use YouTube to augment the books I have. If there are any online resources out there that you'd recommend, I'd appreciate hearing about them.

    to go to the gym (Planet Fitness because it's 99$/yr!) or stretch whenever I am feeling cranky. I'm joining a 24 hour gym, and I think it will do wonders for my mood. My new hobby can be working out. Treadmills and weight machines are not nearly as exciting as dance classes, but they're much cheaper and so I can afford to go more often.

    to bring my lunch to work more often and make more vegan and gluten free meals. I love cooking and I'm good at it. I don't need to read more recipes for breads and desserts, I eat plenty of breads and desserts. What I would like to do is to get more adept with different flours and a vegan diet. M! told me last night that he's never felt full from a meal without meat. I'd like to change that for him.

    to be more responsible with money. To have greater awareness of income and expenditures. Towards this end, I will stop relying on credit cards- small charges that are paid off on payday are okay, carried balances are not. I will also spend my money, after house bills, on my quest in the theatre. Let socializing come in third, or combine it with my calling.

    to emphasize being charming and friendly before being right.

    We'll be ringing in the New Year with our family in Massachusetts. I hope your New Year is merry and bright!
    Monday, December 28th, 2009
    spreadsothin
    3:23p
    Tomorrow is FIVE GOLDEN RINGS
    Yesterday, after a quick shift at work, I was feeling so damn lazy. I felt so slovenly, I didn't even want to stand to get up off the couch, so instead I rolled off and crawled to the next room. I hate that feeling. So I decided to do something about it.
    I was feeling hungry, so I ate some healthy, spicy leftovers (Veganomicon's Jamaican Shepherdess Pie), and then asked Michael to go for a walk. It was growing dark, and we were due at my grandmother's within the hour. But I needed to move my body, I was feeling so horrible from all of the sugar and inactivity.
    So we walked from our house to my grandmother's. We walked 3.7 miles. And my body rejoiced. It wasn't too hard, I don't feel taxed or sore this morning. It was absolutely the right thing to do for myself and my body. It was a good challenge.

    And maybe walking 3.7 hilly miles shouldn't really be a challenge. But the point is that it was, and that I did it. Afterwards, I felt like I accomplished something. Walking around the 3.2 mile flat lake doesn't make me feel accomplished in the same way. But yesterday, I traveled between towns on foot. I liked that.


    Another thing I like is playing with mysterygoogle.com.... does anyone have experience with it?
    Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009
    spreadsothin
    11:04a
    Women and Weight
    I have always been large. When I was born, I weighed more than eleven pounds. When I was two, I looked five. When I was in seventh grade, my gym teacher published my weight on a bulletin board: the Clinton administration had just changed the obesity standards and I was now officially obese.

    As an obese person, I was now a member of a club that included many sports figures and celebrities such as George Clooney. I played sports: soccer, competitive canoeing, and fencing. I've taken all kinds of dance classes: ballet, tap, jazz and belly. I have led hikes into the wilderness, I have lifted and carried heavy things, children and adults. I am strong and capable, and I find my body beautiful.

    I remember losing weight four times. The first time was the summer before junior year: I took a family trip to California where I discovered grilled chicken caesar salad and ate it at every meal. The second time was sophomore year of college, when I did the Master Cleanse. I had so much energy, felt so much lighter, did three hours of dance but missed the social aspects of eating and the taste sensation. (A repeated attempt failed miserably.) The third time was after my trip to China: we walked for hours every day and ate all of our meals communally. I came home weighing 187, my lowest since eighth grade. I kept at that low weight throughout the summer, but when I started an office job and hormonal birth control in the fall, it all came back. That December, my senior year of college, I gave up sweets, fried food, meat and dating for a month, as an experiment. I lost ten pounds.

    When I am smaller, I am praised. I get more inappropriate sexual attention. More people talk about and touch my body. Shopping is more fun, because I have more options to choose from. I still do not resemble a model, and still wouldn't look conventionally beautiful in a bikini. But it isn't good enough.

    When I am at my smallest, I am told that I just need to work a little harder, and disappear a little more, and then I will be more socially acceptable.

    In my adult life, I have never weighed less than 187 pounds. I think it is unlikely that I will ever weigh much less than that. I will never look like the ideal for most designers and directors. And I have to be okay with that. I have to love my body, for it is the only instrument of its kind available to me. I rejoice in my body, I appreciate how strong it is and all the things it does for me. Sometimes I even take pleasure in avoiding much of the inappropriate sexual attention that skinnier women receive.

    Being healthy is a separate goal from losing weight. I believe in Health at Every Size. There are skinny people who are not as healthy as me, and I am not as healthy as some fatter people. Fat and health are not necessarily correlated the way the diet industry would have you believe.

    I work and want to do more work in the theatre. Entertainment can be a very vain industry. I am interested in improving my career. One of the first things I am told to do is to lose weight.

    Last night I was at a holiday party for a feminist theatre company I know and love. I was having a most enjoyable conversation with another actress about the constant negotiation between paying the bills and doing creative work. She mentioned that she was celiac. I mentioned that I was thinking of reducing my intake of processed carbs. Soon, everyone in the room was engaged in a discussion of how I could slim down. A squishy old white woman was telling me that she has yogurt for breakfast, the celiac actress recommended buckwheat and an apple, and her boyfriend was debating the different kinds of oatmeal with a nice old man. The actress and her boyfriend left, reminding me about Weight Watchers (where I had attended my first meeting, at ten). The nice old man and squishy woman kept saying that I had a beautiful face, and such a nice figure if I could just shave some off- asking me if I had ever tried Pilates- and saying that there were so many roles I could play in musical theatre if I was slimmer- but there was one that I could play as I was! The lead in Hairspray, the Token Fat Girl.

    I am sure they meant completely well. This is what happens when you ask for career advice. You get career advice. The more insulting thing was that, before this was brought up, I was constantly being compared to another fat white actress in the company. She is at least ten years older than me, with children, but because I have slightly reddish hair and because we both have chubby cheeks, we were actually confused. Not to start the oppression olympics, but if we shared the physical characteristic of a different skin color, people would not have dared to compare us so blatantly.

    I am sick of being told that a fatter person cannot play a love interest. I am a fat person, and I am in the middle of a blissful love affair. I am sick of seeing fat people portrayed as evil, lazy, or undisciplined. We love fat pudgy babies, and fat pudgy animals, but we hate fat adults.

    I am fat and will probably always be perceived as fat. To succeed in my industry, people recommend getting smaller. I might try that. But I'd rather change the world.

    Look at the good work that model Crystal Renn is doing!

    It's a struggle. I want to be a strong example of what a woman can be. I don't want to disappear. But I want to be perform in the public sphere.
    Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009
    a_leprechaun
    1:51a
    very short initial reaction to Iron Man 2 trailer
    THEY MADE WHIPLASH COOL. WHAT.

    (here's what whiplash USED to look like, btw. lol dorky purple suit)

    Also, apparently miniature arc reactors can only ever be built in a cave or a cave-like environment. No wonder the Stark Industries technicians couldn't get it right.
    Monday, December 21st, 2009
    spreadsothin
    3:47p
    Car Emergency
    On Friday I planned to surprise Michael with a trip to the city. We were going to the Tim Burton exhibit at MOMA, and then going to Le Parker Meridien's Burger Joint. Then we would walk down 5th Avenue, sip hot chocolate, and admire the tree. It would be festive and put us both in a holiday mood. It would also create a happy memory in the city, because Michael doesn't like the city all that much.

    My replacement at work was a half hour late, so we had to scramble to get to the museum in time to use the timed tickets. While driving into the city, I made some phonecalls, one to the teacher of Shakespeare Gym, thanking him for putting me in the advanced class, and one back to work, where they had more questions. I took the second one on the George Washington Bridge. We finished our call, and I glanced down, away from the road, to press the End button and hang up. And Michael yelled, "Hon, look out!" and we rear-ended the guy in front of us, which caused him to rear-end the guy in front of him.

    Freakout. Everything stands still for a minute. Then I put on the hazards, and run up to the first car: Are you okay? I'm sorry, it's all my fault. And run up to the second car: Are you okay? I'm sorry, it's all my fault. Oh, my god, a baby. Is the baby okay?

    And satisfied that they're okay, I go back to Michael. He's okay. The front of my car is completely pushed in, and the radiator is leaking coolant. I had just paid 65$ on Monday to get a bulb replaced on the front. That bulb is now smashed. The whole front is caved in.

    The second car advocates pulling up and to the side of the road. Michael moves my car. I stand there and cry, feeling horrible for having caused this, for looking away from the road for literally one second. Michael always warned me about texting while driving and its dangerous, and I largely pooh-poohed him. And now, I've caused this accident and this upset and this big monetary loss and we won't get to the exhibit and we won't have a happy memory.

    I could tell Michael was upset, because his jaw was set.
    And the driver of the first car offered to let us sit in his car, where it was warm. We did. He told us that he was missing his date because of this. I felt like a jerk.

    The officer showed up, and led us in an 5mph convoy off the bridge to 178th street. What a decent, respectable officer! Businesslike yet polite. It was really nice. We were a three-car accident blocking the right lane of the GWB on a Friday rush hour, but we were soon out of the way.

    And then it took about 40 minutes to get his paperwork processed. We were finally handed a form to fill out for a police report. The police officer told us we could wait there for the tow truck, pointed out the bus station next door in case we needed to use the rest room, made a joke about Tiger Woods and wished us happy holidays.

    We called Allstate Roadside Assistance. They told us our policy was cancelled, and since it was an accident, we'd have to call the Claims Department anyway. We call the Claims Department. They tell us our policy was cancelled. We ask who cancelled it. They say that we did. It's getting ridiculous and it's approaching freezing temperatures. At Michael's insistence, we go inside the bus station. He argues with Allstate, I argue with Allstate. Apparently, they tried billing us and the card was declined. They said they sent us five pieces of mail before cancelling our policy. They had also sent us cards saying our policy was good until June, and when I called to update my address, in October, less than two months prior, they had said we were all up to date.

    It is no good. We are going in circles. I try to lodge a complaint and they tell me I have to talk with my agent. I leave a phone message and an email for my agent. We are in the bus station, surrounded by the pigeons. It is practically 6pm. The car is still broken on the street.

    I remember something and call Volkswagen Roadside Assistance. They promise that the tow truck will arrive in one hour. When I get the automated call that says the tow truck will arrive in fifteen minutes, I call the tow company to ask them to call my cell before they arrive, because we're waiting inside where it's warm. The tow company tells me that they have no knowledge of a tow and need a PO number. I call Volkswagen. I call the tow company. I call Volkswagen. It's figured out. We have to wait another hour.

    We buy sandwiches and I drink a beer (dragon stout) out of a paper bag. The pigeons fly overhead. I feel defeated. We don't want to go to the museum anymore, and besides, it would be closed.

    The tow company says that they're twenty minutes away. Michael is still upset. I am too. The sign at the deli advertises a drink called "morirsonando" a dream of death? I tell the guy I speak a little Spanish and am curious about that drink. He says it means "latin juice". I know it doesn't. He says it has orange juice in it and is delicious. I google. It's a Dominican drink, it means "to die in a dream" and it's blended orange juice with evaporated milk.

    The guy calls, he's fifteen minutes away. Then five. We go wait on the street. Ten minutes later, he finally shows up.

    It's after eight. He lets us wait in his blissfully warm truck. Then he tells us that he can't tow us to Rockland. The VW dealership is now closed and he'll have to keep the car at his shop at the Bronx overnight. We'll have to find our own way home. And we have to pay the 16$ toll. Great. We give him 16$, thank him, and go back to the buses.

    We take the 8:30 bus to Rockland. Michael bought a magazine, so he has to run and find an ATM before the bus leaves. We make it just in time. On the bus, I call my mother and ask her to drive us from her town (Nyack) to our town (Valley Cottage) so we won't have to walk in the cold. It's really cold and we're both shaken up. My mother says that the bus should drop us close enough to walk.

    The bus drops us at the corner. We walk up two hills. I can feel my heart beating through my chest. We sit down on the couch to watch TV and I fall asleep.

    xxx

    Today, my agent calls me at 9:15am. She says she did everything in her power to contact me. She says she sent five letters. I never got them. She says she can't cover us for the lapse, but we could sign up again today. It's ridiculous. We called to update our information when we moved, they have our new address but not our new phone number. They never emailed us or called our cellphones (which they have). They just let our insurance lapse. The car accident will not be covered. Our insurance is cancelled.

    We go for insurance through USAA. It's double what we were paying at Allstate, but USAA is supposed to have amazing customer service. Part of the reason it's double is because I now have two traffic violations (one from 07, which just went to court in 09). USAA insurance starts today.

    My car is being evaluated at the dealership. We'll have to pay out of pocket for the repair costs, if it's salvageable.Our insurance is doubled. I don't know what will happen when the other people make a claim against our insurance. I hope we won't have penalties from the DMV. I do have to pay a "Unsafe Driver" penalty of 125$ a year for the next three years because I now have two tickets.

    Thankfully, our friend Mina loaned us her car for today and tomorrow. I don't know what I'm going to do on Wednesday, but I really appreciate it. I called the Post Office and filed a complaint. I sent away for the police report. Hopefully this will all work itself out.

    Instead of getting in the Christmas mood, we got royally screwed by Allstate. They let us down in our hour of need. ButMichael just called. An Allstate adjuster received our complaint and says that they should be able to reinstate our insurance! Let's hope!
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